Coming Home to Ourselves and Each Other

Belonging is not about fitting in. It’s about being known. Seen. Accepted—not in spite of our differences, but because of them. True belonging doesn’t require us to shrink or perform. It welcomes us as we are—messy, evolving, and real.

In November, as the days shorten and gatherings begin, the theme of belonging becomes more palpable. For some, this season brings warmth and connection. For others, it brings loneliness or disconnection. Many of us long to belong, but don’t know where or how to find it.

Social scientists like Dr. Vivek Murthy and Dr. Julianne Holt-Lunstad have shown that lack of belonging—social isolation—is one of the greatest public health threats we face. It’s associated with depression, anxiety, addiction, and even early mortality. And yet, we live in a society that often prioritizes independence over interdependence.

Inner work reminds us that belonging begins within. When we accept the fullness of who we are—the contradictions, the wounds, the longings—we create space for deeper connection with others. The more at home we feel in ourselves, the more we can create belonging around us.

Belonging also requires courage. It asks us to show up honestly, to risk vulnerability, and to choose connection even when it feels safer to withdraw. It invites us to build communities where difference is honored, and where each voice matters.

This month, may we remember that belonging is not a destination—it is a practice. One we cultivate in small, steady ways: by listening deeply, by reaching out, by making space for others and ourselves to be whole.

Reflective Questions

• Where do you feel most like yourself?

• What relationships or spaces invite your full presence?

• What parts of you still feel like they don’t belong?

• How can you offer belonging to someone else this month?

Practice for November
A Belonging Meditation

Sit comfortably and close your eyes. Take several grounding breaths.

Repeat silently or aloud:

“I belong. I am enough. I am welcome here.”
“Others belong. They are enough. We are welcome here.”

With each repetition, visualize a space—real or imagined—where you feel held, seen, and safe. Sit in this feeling. Let it soak in.

End with a simple intention:

“May I carry this sense of belonging into the world.”